One of the hardest things that children have to do when their parents divorce is to learn to live between two homes. They have to adjust to being able to only spending limited time with each parent, and they need to learn how to call both houses home. This isn’t always easy, so they may need help with it.
One of the most important things that parents can do in this situation is make sure that the kids have their own space in each house. This might be a room, but it can also be a dedicated drawer for their belongings if space is at a premium at the new place. If possible, let them have some say in the specifics about their area, especially if they have a room. They might be able to choose the paint colors but even things like being able to pick out bedding might help them to make it their own.
Try not to have them bring things back and forth between homes unless they are special items like lovies. Having clothing and essentials at both houses makes both feel more like home. Plus, this takes away the guesswork of trying to figure out whether they have everything on every trip.
The parenting plan you have for the children should provide them with a schedule that lets them know when they will have time at each home. This can help the transition for some children because they know that they’ll be going to the other house. It also helps you and your ex to ensure that things go as smoothly as possible.