A divorce throws your entire life into a twist. Imagine how your child feels if you, as an adult, are struggling to handle your divorce. Yes, the divorce is the end of a marriage between you and your spouse, but it’s also seemingly and end to your child’s idea of a family.
It will take time for your child to adjust to the idea of divorce. To your child, this may seem like the end of the world, and although you might think that’s dramatic, to a little one who knows no other situation, it is. Fortunately, you can help your child come through the situation in a healthy manner.
How? Start by talking to your child about divorce
With up to 50 percent of marriages ending in divorce, the situation your child is going through is not unique. There are many children going through the same thing, and the difference in how they do during and afterward comes down to how you address divorce. Tell your child what it means, what to expect when it comes to custody arrangements and that it doesn’t mean that he or she is responsible.
Another thing you can do is talk to your child about how a divorce has some positive aspects. If you used to fight with your spouse, that violence or aggression will now no longer be in the home. If your spouse was abusive, that factor will no longer play a role in your life or your child’s life. Even if you’re both still best friends despite the divorce, there is a benefit to be found for your child. For instance, two homes can mean two different bedroom designs that your child loves.
Helping your child through divorce starts with being positive. With the right information and a good attitude, your child will survive this part of his or her life, and thrive as he or she forges ahead with you.